WHAT MAKES US COMPLETE AND WHOLE FROM THE INSIDE OUT???

What makes us complete and whole from the inside out ? Love remains the essence of Choice , and the effect of emotions ! It is the inside where the hurt and pain starts, right ? It starts at the core of your being , which is the soul or in plain terms , your will , mind and emotions . Now for most of us who fall in love or have been in love , or whatever you would like to call it , you made the choice to be with someone , and that someone was special and unique in his way towards you, and fullfilled your needs. But would rather choose a sinfull love or a pure one? Which one is what we need ?? or is it both? We are infected with sinfull love , therefore needing Grace ! It is Love we search , but this love is to be shared with another human being, how about the love we share with God?Why is it so easy to surrender to sinfull love while it's so hard to give in to pure literarlly unconditional love?